The alone time project – getting started


For the past four years, I’ve spent barely any time on my own.

For the most part, that’s by choice. I don’t crave time by myself, and I don’t find myself getting sick of being around people. Lately though I have felt like I need to learn to be alone again.

Since I moved in to a shared house with my boyfriend and a couple of uni friends back in 2013, I’ve always had people to spend time with. I could walk from my room to a friend’s room in ten seconds. If one friend wasn’t around, the other probably was. I had my boyfriend to spend time with, I had a large group of friends living three tube stops away and a big, loud sociable office to spend all day in.

I really liked all of this. I liked the feeling of being surrounded by people I loved being with and as time went on, I got used to never really being alone. I don’t live in that house anymore, and I have changed jobs, but mostly my situation is the same. I still live with my boyfriend, work in an office full of people I like and have friends near me or available pretty much constantly.

I equate having lots of people around me to being happy. It’s certainly given me a lot of happiness over the years, but the older I get the more I feel I need to touch base with my own company more. The most amount of cumulative time I’m in my own company is probably while traveling to work, which isn’t a particularly long journey, and I think that needs to change.

I don’t want to start spending hours shutting myself out of socialising and forcing myself into being alone when I don’t want to, but I want to make the effort to spend a bit of me time with just me.

So to get started…

I’m going to start to try and do something alone each weekend, even if it’s just popping into town for an hour to browse shops, or sitting in a café to read and do work. I can’t change what makes me happy and I don’t have any desire to do so, but I would like to get back to enjoying time with moi. 

I’d like to build up to doing some solo travel, so I hope I can stick to trying every week. We’ll see. If anyone has particularly good solo activities tell me about them! 

5 thoughts on “The alone time project – getting started

  1. It’s so interesting how some people love being alone and others prefer being around other people 🙂 I’m definitely happy on my own and actually go pretty crazy if I don’t get time to myself! I love the idea of slowly incorporating more alone time into your life but even though I love time by myself, I’m still incredibly daunted by the prospect of a solo trip. Let us know how the project goes! xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Life, Travel, Italy

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  2. I spend next to zero time alone. My wife and I live together obviously, but we own a cafe and work together too. I am in a sociable work-place serving customers, and rarely spend any time alone. I have spent more time alone in the past (post uni living of course), and didn’t mind it, but saying that I would not change anything about my living or working.
    My earlier waking time, is probably the biggest thing, I created for myself to have an hour alone to myself a day (I love it for pottereing about, drinking tea etc). But, a few hours, to do anything alone more substantial (eg. blogging!) would be something I’d like to carve.
    I really like this post!

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  3. I like to take myself to the movies every now and again. It’s not like you talk during them anyway and sometimes other people don’t want to watch the same films I do.

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